Excerpt from Pete Asmus's new book Questions are the KEY to Unlocking Your Reality

Communication

Communication can be broken down into three simple terms:

Verbal

Non-Verbal

Implied

In this first section we are going to focus on Verbal Communication.  This book will show you how can you better understand Communication, how you can use it to your advantage and most important how to take your life to the next level.  I know that’s why you are reading this, right?  To change your trajectory! So let go and Let’s GO!  

Verbal Communication is one of the most powerful tools we have at our disposal.  The meaning of words, the way we say them and predisposed meanings to them all combine to relay a thought or idea.  But ultimately they have a much more profound affect on us our attitudes, our interactions and ultimately our relationships with the world around us.

And yet, for as powerful a tool as communication is, we hardly take the time to understand it.  Words are the sparks that change lives, and the way we say them impacts their effectiveness!  Like a hammer or a saw, they are used to build the most amazing things.  But used improperly they can be more destructive than any force.  If you don’t believe me, give your hammer to a unskilled teenager with some anger issues and have him help you out on your next rehab…

Most of us understand the basics of what communication is.  We have a general understanding of the difference between non-verbal and verbal.  Communication is mostly non-verbal: our tone, our posture, etc.… yet you’ll notice that we put verbal first.  The reason is, You are constantly talking to yourself.

Verbal communication is the most important thing to understand because it’s the ONLY way you communicate with yourself.  And if you understand nothing else, you must come to understand that how you talk to yourself is the most influential thing in your life.  How you talk to yourself impacts your attitude, your perception, your motivation, everything about you!  If your thoughts are negative, everything else about you will be negative.  And negativity will Shatter your dreams faster than a pessimist. (I wanted to say Spouse)

No one wants to deal with someone who’s negative all the time!  How can you get someone to believe in you when you don’t?  You are incredible and THAT’s what you want people to see! So Let’s get started!!

Right here.  Right now.  You must start a positive conversation with yourself.  When you start projecting a positive attitude to others your influence will increase. If you want others to see you, to believe in you, to want to deal with you, you need to have influence or no one is listening. 

You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself because no body cares, and start focusing on the amazing things in your life.  Stop making excuses no one wants to hear, and start making changes that will provide the results you are looking for.   If you want to be a success, you have to believe you will be a success and focus on the ways to accomplish that.  I can hear you saying right now, “OK, but HOW??” Easy… Questions!